End of the story

have not written because there was a lot of things going on but at least can now finish the story. My daughter's friend was in trouble with the law and it was not drug related. Remember he was babysitting for his half brother young children. Well the mother accused him of child molesting her young daughter. He told my daughter that he did not do it , that it was the father and the father told him that if he did not take the wrap for him that he was going to kill him. Nice guy to have for a brother. He was arrested and was going to plead guilty to the charges which would have ruined his whole life, but my daughter and I were not about to let that happen. For the past few months we have been trying to help his defense team to get the young man to tell the truth about what really happened. Last week his case was finally resolved, there was a plea agreement made, He gets 5 years probation and is sent to a rehab in another state where he will be safe from his half brother. I cannot even begin to tell you what this ordeal has emotionally done to my daughter as well as myself. We may never see this young man again which breaks our hearts but we wish him well and I know that now he has a chance to rebuild his life. Now I have to help my Daughter get a fresh start. In the up coming weeks my blog will be under going a makeover it will be more centered on relationships with mothers and daughters so please stay tune and enjoy what is left of the summer.

poor choices

For the past year I have been having a struggle with my Daughter about the choices that she has been making in her life. I can still hear my father saying to my mom those wise words , experience is the best teacher and a fool learns by no other. So I am trying to put this theory into practice but it is not easy at all. Last winter was one of the hardest that we had, the weather was awful and my daughters behavior was even worse. Her relationship with that young man was driving me crazy. Then in February everything reach a boiling point. I began to suspect that he was in some kind of trouble. My daughter was very secretive about him. All I could do was pray and wait for the truth to reveal itself. Second weekend of February came and the young man showed up at our door steps. At the time I did not know that he was kicked out of his brothers house or why. I let him stay until he could find some other place to stay. Monday the local police came looking for him, I assumed it was drug related . I went with him so he could talk to them. I said to him to just tell the truth and that this might be a chance for him to get his life straightened out. He was in big trouble but it was not with drugs.

Last Summer Contined

I had made the doctors appointment for my daughter around the end of September. On the day of the appointment I asked her if she wanted me to go into the doctors treatment room with her and she said no. Therefore I sat in the waiting room while she was with the doctor for almost two hours. As we were on our way home, I asked her if she was okay and if she wanted to talk about it. She again said no. All I can tell you is that she had a false pregnancy, which is what she told me. However in the weeks to come she would slip into a very deep depression. I tried to get her to go to counciling but she said no that there was nothing anyone could say or do to make her feel better. She slowly started to pull herself together, so I thought. Shortly before Thanksgiving, She heard from the young man again. They had moved about 16 miles from our home. So they began to have some contact again. She apparently found out where they lived and had a friend take her to see him, except that she told me that she was spending the weekend with a girlfriend. She spent the weekend with them. I was not a happy mom when I found out the truth. Prior to my Daughter getting involved with this guy we had an open and honest relationship. She knew that I did not want her hanging around with that family because of their drug habits. My Daughter knows how I feel about drug abuse and she use to agree but not anymore.

Trouble with Teenagers

Why is it that when you talk to a teen about what you feel is good sound advice, they do not listen. I just don't get it. My Father was right when he said experience is the best teacher and a fool learns by no other. Getting back to my story on what happened last summer. The family that my daughter was practically living were being evicted. She was very upset because she had fallen for the young man that was taking care of his brother's young children. At every chance that I had , I tried to talk the young man into leaving that home and to move into another place. My advice was falling on deaf ears. Now they were moving away and my Daughter was heart broken. I was grateful that the lord had see fit to answer my prayer. So it was that last August that family moved out and I was hoping that my Daughter and I could get back to normal. Little did I know that her life had changed forever. She began to think that she was pregnant, even though she was using birth control. The young man was the father and he was gone . She had no phone number, no forwarding address no nothing. We went and bought a pregnancy test. The test was positive, I called my gyn. and made an appointment.

Power Of Prayer

I was becoming very concerned about the company my daughter was keeping last summer. I had hoped that she would get a job. All she cared about was hanging out with that family. Therefore I began to pray. My grandfather was a minister and I was taught to put give your troubles to the Lord. I would pray everyday to the Lord to keep my daughter from harm. I would also pray for that family to move away. Sure enough, my prayer was to be answered. I came home from work one day in early August and my daughter was upset because that family was being evicted for not paying their rent. I was so relieved and grateful to the Lord. I talked to my daughter about this new event, how it was for the best but she did not want to hear what I had to say. All she could think about was that she was losing the love of her life. I still tried to talk some sense into her but all my talk was falling on deaf ears. So once again I had to place my troubles into the Lords hands. Our lives were changing, not necessarily for the better. My daughter should have been focusing on her up coming school year and her future. Instead she was obsessed about a boy who was trapped in a unhealthy family life. I could see that I had a whole lot of praying to do.

Last Summer

It was becoming clear to me that my daughter had fallen in love with this young man. I was not pleased about this at all. She always seems to gravitate to misfits. I did like this young man and had he come from a normal family. Things probably would have worked for them. As I said , my daughter is not attracted to normal teens, if there is such a thing. This young man came from a very troubled back ground. He was born to a woman who had very serious substance abuse issues. he was taken away from her when he was an infant. I don't know if he was in foster care or adopted. He does suffer from ADHD. He also has angry problems, which was why I felt it was a bad idea for him to be a nanny to the little ones. I was afraid that he would lose his temper and physically abuse them. He got rough with my Daughter, just kidding around but left bruises on her. He was always very sorry. My daughter always made excuses for his behavior. I always told him what he did was wrong and reminded him that the male members of our family were protective of my Daughter. If any guy had left bruises on me as a young women, my Father would have killed him. I am no different then my Father.

Teenager In Trouble contined

My Daughter began to tell me about this teenage boy that I had recently met. He lived with his half brother and wife, who were the parents of the young children that he was playing nanny to. This just did not look okay to me. The parents at the time were working and he was helping them out. They were a young couple in their 20s. My daughter began to spend alot of time at their home because she was attracted to the young man . I don't blame her after all he is a very nice looking and charming young man. I was concerned that they might practice unsafe sex and I was not ready for her to be a parent. So I made sure they had the needed protection. I also began to hear rumors about the young couple, wild parties, drinking , smoking dope. There always seemed to be teenagers hanging out at their house, my daughter was always one of them. This went on for most of last summer. I tried to get my daughter away from them and the young man as well. I knew that the couple was using him for a nanny so that they could party. I told him he didn't have to stay there and that they were wasting his life as well as theirs. Also those poor little kids needed to be taken away from them. He told me that was why he was there to protect thse little ones.

Teenager In Trouble

Last year I met a young man while I was out walking my dog. I rescued this dog from a shelter 2 years ago as I was in need of a watch dog. She is a Shepard- mix with very unusual markings. The young man asked me about her and they became fast friends. I noticed that he seemed to be caring for young children, I assumed they were his younger brothers and sister they were all under the age of six. Everyday when I walked my dog he would come out to see her and pet her and she would jump up and give him puppy kisses. One day while I was at work some neighbor kids with a pitbull were in my yard tainting my dog and this young man came to her rescue with a plastic baseball bat. He hit the pitbull across the nose and chased the kids out of my yard. That evening while I was out walking her, He came out to us and told me what happened. I thanked him for his help. I then introduced myself and he told me his first name and we chatted for a couple minutes. When I returned home, I talked to my daughter about the young man and how he protected my dog. She knew who he was and began to tell me about his unusual story. This is the beginning to his very long sad story. I hope you will stay tune.

Mother's and Daughters

Hello There, Was having some computer problems but we are up and running again. 2 weeks ago my Daughter turned 17. We went to a favorite place for dinner. She then went to stay with my cousin to give me a break. They are getting along and having fun. It is not always fun having two females from different generations living in the same house. My Mother and I have similar issues. I am a very free spirited person, my Mother has always been a control freak. A very bad combination. My Daughter is like my mother, We free spirits will not be controlled, which is why I'm having a break. As much as I love my Daughter , I just need my space from time to time. So here I am enjoying my space when my Mother calls and wants to come for a visit because she's bored and she knows I'm on vacation. I've only been alone for 4 days, what can you do. Tomorrow We go to pick-up my Daughter. Then back to normal, I guess having some time alone will have to wait. No going to the beach and reading my book that I got 3 months ago or doing my nails or taking a nap in the sun with my dog or etc etc etc.

Hello My Friends, I'm writing about how important my Father was to me during my teenage years as well as when I was a young adult. He gave me great advice on being a valuable employee. Always show up for work on time, be a team player. learn everything you can about your job and do your work with a sense of pride. I've work with many young people over the years and I've tried to instill in them that same work ethic that my father instilled in me. Young people today are more interested in playing then working. My Mom says that young people are over indulged. This maybe true but you still have to grow up and part of that growing experience is learning how to financially support yourself and manage money. You don't learn these things at school but from we parents. I'm having a difficult time getting through to my daughter about these things. She only lives in the moment for that moment and has no clue about saving money for a rainy day. To her money was made to be spent. It must be a female thing. When I was my daughter's age I was more interested in making money then spending it.

Remembering My Father

In honor of Fathers Day I would like to write about my father who passed away 16 years ago as a result of heart disease. As I mentioned my parents had the pleasure of raising 6 teenagers during the 1970s. This was the time when my father became more involved with our upbringing. He gave us kids some very basic rules to follow. Rule 1 Stay out of trouble with the law. Break the law and you will go to jail. Rule 2 Go to school and graduate . Rule 3 Help out around the house and no you do not get an allowance. He provided us with food, clothing and shelter and we were expected
to do our part. Rule 4 No lying and sneaking around behind his back. Any violation of His rules and you would have to find some other place to live. I personally did not have a problem with the rules.
My Father was a very smart and fair man. Living in the country, we grew our own food. His favorite time of year was planting season. I always had the honor of planting the potato seed because my foot was just the right size to place in between the seeds. We always planted our garden on Memorial Day, unless it rained. As for my Fathers rules , I am using them on my daughter and yes they still work. Thanks DAD , I LOVE YOU!!!!!

Teenagers learning to drve

Hello again, Last Friday I had the day off from work and My Daughter wanted to go and have some practice driving time. My first mistake was in Not saying a prayer before we left the drive way. I know that it's hard to learn to drive . It's even harder for a Mom who is a bit of a control freak. We live in an area that has alot of hills and winding twisting roads. As I said I should have prayed before we left the driveway. We were driving along faster then I preferred and my daughter was listening to the radio and not to me. We entered into a very sharp right hand turn faster then we were suppose to when we did a side drift and almost rolled over. She wonders why I was yelling at her. After a 20 minute lecture I then made her drive through the turn again. My question is who is better a teaching teens to drive, a Dad, Mom or the Drivers Ed. dept. At this point I'd rather it be anyone but me. As much as I hate it , I will continue to help her learn how to drive . I just need to remember to pray, if that doesn't work then I'll just have to find a willing racecar or stunt driver who wants to mentor a teenage driver. Until then to all my neighbors Beware when you see us leave the driveway with the little missy behind the wheel.

Hello again!

Hello Again , lets get to know each other better. I'm Donna Hubbard aka Mother Hubbard. I'm a single parent with a somewhat troubled teenage daughter. I'm talking major drama queen. I decided to start a blog because I believe that with my experience can help others. In the coming weeks I will be sharing the story of a very troubled teen that my daughter and I have come to know and love. We will also be talking about my troubled daughter and her other troubled young friends. We will be discussing topics like teen pregnancies, drug abuse, school, trying to find a job, summer vacations, and what ever else happens to pop up in our lives. So I hope you will join us! Ta ta for now.

Hello Again to all my young friends.

I was talking to my teenage daughter about what I should write about in my blog. She told me most teenagers are interested in sex, drugs, music, and friends. I said what a coincidence that's the same thing teenagers were interested in when I was a teenager. Go figure. I love how you teenagers think you invented this risky behavior. I'm sure if you took the time to talk to your parents they;d have some stories to tell. As for myself, I didn't engage in these behaviors. I was a book worm and a free lance writer wannabe. However my 5 brothers made up for it. I remember this particular moment as if it happened yesterday. I was in my room working on a school paper during spring break. My mom, that would be old mother Hubbard, was doing her daily house cleaning. My mom is a neat freak. My family lives in a New England cape style house. Two bedrooms upstairs, two bedrooms, one bathroom, kitchen and living room down stairs. One bathroom is hard for eight people to share. Anyway, my mom was across the hall from me cleaning my brothers room. I heard her having a fit about something then walking down stairs and throw something in the wood stove. A few minute later I could smell the scent of weed drifting upstairs into my bedroom. I ran downstairs and asked her what she had thrown in the wood stove. She told me she had found a pringles can underneath one of my brothers bed and it was full of weed so she threw it in the woodstove. I guess she wanted to get the whole nieghborhood high. I told her that wasn't the proper way to get rid of illegal substances. My mother is constantly looking in my brothers room for drugs claiming she was just cleaning their rooms. Eventually they hid there drugs in a different place. How often does you mom clean your room, (looking for drugs)?

Introduction to Mother Hubbards Facts of Life

Hello to everyone out there in cyberspace. I'm Mother Hubbard and I'm here to bring you the facts of life as I know them. Why you ask? It has come to my attention that there are a lot of young people that don't know the facts of life. You are all just so busy on myspace and facebook looking for I don't know what, to be worrying about the facts of life. I feel it is my duty as Mother Hubbard to share with you my experiences and what I have learned about life. Please feel free to ask questions, no question is off limits. I hope we can talk about all the issues that are troubling you young folk. In the mean time, let me share with you fact of life number 1: life is an amazing journey, the ultimate road trip. Oh how I love a road trip! How many of you out there have been on a road trip. My last road trip was with my daughter to College Park, Maryland for a school competition. We live in a small town here in Vermont. I had no clue how to get there. I went to AAA auto club and got a tripik road map on how to get there. We start out on our road trip to College Park. The weather was rainy and foggy. We made poor time. We got into lower P.A. outside of York and the traffic was bumper to bumper. So, I decided to find an alternative route. To make a long story short I got us lost. After asking for some more directions, we finally made it to our destination at 1 o'clock in the morning. Even though we got lost I really enjoyed the trip. I never learned so much or saw so many different things in my life. Like those annoying little cicada bugs that scared the crap out of my daughter. It was all worth the trip.